“When you’re 30, you’ll be past your Marriage Sell-By Date.” My Darling Mother.
Rewind to the year 2000, when baggy jeans ruled, Gwyneth Paltrow was actually cool (well kind of) and my mother was doling out romantic advice that would come back to haunt me. For generations, Indian mothers and a seemingly endless network of family, friends and random acquaintances have generated and assisted marriages around the globe.
But that would not be the case for me. I, Siya Joshi, was determined to find my own man. In fact, I wasn’t even sure if I wanted or believed in marriage. And so I told my mother, I would go it alone, and if I really needed help, then I’d turn to her when I was 30. To which, she instantly replied, “Siya, by then you’ll be past your Sell-By Date.”
Well fast-forward to the year 2016 – I’m 34, unmarried and starting to wonder if my mother’s flippant comment, was actually a prophesy in disguise. And even more shocking, I think I might actually want to get married. Gulp.
But first, let me introduce myself properly as I am clearly not defined just by my relationship status.
I grew-up with TLC and Destiny’s Child for crying out loud. The ‘Independent ladies’ mantra, is on a microchip inserted into my brain via MTV. Like most, the journey from teenage angst, twenty-something aspirations and thirty-something practicalities has been one full of highs and lows, some life curveballs and the adjustment to the more mundane aspects of life. I was never someone who sought fame and fortune, but I did want a career that was satisfying and would help others. I was prepared to take risks, leaving a stable job to travel around India, and eventually finding my calling: teaching yoga and Indian philosophy. I love my job. Like most there are things that get me down, even yoga teachers have to face office politics!
My love life on the other hand, is a bit like that desert in the opening sequence of the new Star Wars movie. Lost and infrequently inhabited. No that’s unfair, I have plenty of romantic experiences; if you could get a qualification for dating, I’d have enough experience for a PhD. But for a variety of reasons, the aforementioned romances haven’t turned into anything long-term.
So now at the age of 34, my friends and family have proclaimed an intervention and I’ve decided it’s time to give something new a go – eek! Unlike the majority of the human population, I’m a bit rubbish with technology, but I’ve decided it’s time to embrace online dating and the world of family set-ups. And I thought if I’m going to do this, why not write a blog, in the hope of sharing my adventures…and learning from others too.
Let’s see what happens!
ps – a few words of wisdom from Mr Einstein.
“Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results.” Albert Einstein.